I’m learning a lesson. A big one. And it’s calllllled…..
Sigh. This is probably the hardest lesson I’ve had to learn in awhile… and I’m actually relearning it, just in a different area of life. Last time I learned it was last summer when Aaron gallivanted off to Korea and the Army just.. left me here. So, I became content in my jobs, and living alone, and taking care of, well, everything. And I did it well.
Now the tables have turned a little bit. I have my husband with me, every day, every night and that in itself is pretty amazing. I mean, have you tried living the same zip code, much less the same house with your spouse before?? It rocks. I love that we can eat meals together almost all the time, and workout together, and all those other married things. Just sayin’…
But then there’s this part of me, that’s actually a really big part of me, that I can’t shake. It’s the part of Elizabeth that seems to only be happy when she has a title outside of “Wife” and is bringing home some bacon. Heck, it doesn’t need to be a lot of bacon, but some. And she also has to be doing something creative or worthwhile, preferably something that has to do with what she paid $50,000 to learn about… She has to be productive about 110% of the time, or otherwise feels like a failure.
I’ve had my ups and downs over the past couple weeks. Guess what? The grass isn’t any greener down here. I’ve felt guilty for racking up all this debt in a freaking private university education just to sweep the floor or wash a few dishes. I should be out there in the world, making money to pay off my debt.
However, my husband is the greatest gift ever. He doesn’t see it that way at all, and he encourages me to do whatever I want. If I work, fine. If not, fine. He reminds me daily that we worked hard to be able to live (not just survive) on one income… I have to remember that. WE worked hard. We BOTH worked hard. When we got married, everything became ours, even our debt.
I had an interview earlier this week for a job I was actually on the fence about. I didn’t get it, and I was honestly a little relieved. It just didn’t feel right. Last night I filled out some more applications, including Sylvan, Starbucks and other jobs at a school district (clerical and aide jobs). I don’t feel an overwhelming need to teach full-time and have my own classroom, but I do feel a need to teach in some capacity. It is what I was made to do, I believe.
Aaron asked me if I could do anything, what would I do? I said that I would be a mom; however, I know it’s not the proper time yet.
Today I got a call from Sylvan. I have an interview tomorrow, and I would love to work for them again. The schedule is flexible and part-time if I want it to be.
A few things keep going through my head…
“God delights in exalting our inability.” ~David Platt
“God equips the called.” (Not sure who said it.)
The book of Ecclesiates… that all the toil under the sun is meaningless.. what really matters in eternity?
The thing is, I have to learn this lesson soon. I can’t move forward in life until I can be content with what I have right now. Life is too short, people are too precious, the weight of eternity is too great, for me to be whining about a perceived problem that I’ve created all on my own. So, here it is: No More Pity Parties for Elizabeth. I’m really really rreeaallllyyy gonna try. And pray. Maybe you should check in on my husband at some point soon…
Who knows what I will do in El Paso, but I do know one thing. At my funeral, my loved ones aren’t going to be standing around telling each other about that one time I didn’t work full-time and make such-and-such salary. They will talk about what kind of person I was.. my character, how I treated people, how I loved Jesus, how I nurtured my children and served my husband. Those are the things that matter.
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Thank you for sharing this. Also, I love the book of Ecclesiastes. This reminded me of a song lyric..
What if my greatest disappointments, or the aching of this life
Is the revealing of a greater thirst this world can’t satisfy?
We will never be truly satisfied in this life… If we were able to be, we wouldn’t need or seek God.. http://bible.us/Hos13.6.NLT
The sooner we realize that God’s ways are far beyond anything we could ever comprehend, and realize that our definition of a successful, well-lived life can be out of touch… the sooner we just accept that and learn to be satisfied and content in any circumstance, the better. (And it is not easy!)
Thanks for your comment, Kristen! I haven’t realized how far out of touch my goals have been until now. Thank you for sharing that verse… I often forget the wisdom of the minor prophets.