I have always thrived on routines. Though I held them with disdain as a child I know that children thrive on routines. It feels safe and comfortable to know what's coming next in the day. The feeling of safety allows you to be more present in the current moment. That said, shifting to a work-from-home … Continue reading Routines are hidden self-care
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The journey to delighting in boredom
By training in...boredom, we train in accepting things as they are. This helps us wean ourselves from the habit of closing down into our soothing world of familiar, imputed meanings.Pema Chodron, Welcoming the Unwelcome I used to be terrified of being bored. As a teenager in high school who lived life at 90 miles an … Continue reading The journey to delighting in boredom
Saying 'no' means saying more
I'm sure you've heard it said that 'no' is a complete sentence. Usually you're told this if you're not sure if you should or can do something and the person you're talking to wants to encourage you to put your foot down and say 'no'. I don't think our society is there yet, to hear … Continue reading Saying 'no' means saying more
Lullabies and aromatherapy
The whir of the sewing machine has been a lullaby and the steam from the hot iron has been aromatherapy. For the last few days of this self-quarantine I've been holed up in my sewing room. It's a room I've recently adorned with new paint (a beautiful airy light blue.. think of a salty breeze) … Continue reading Lullabies and aromatherapy
I could feel this coming.
As far as I know, the world is spinning at the same rate as it was only a week ago. A month ago. A year ago. But now, as of 5:42 AM on March 17, 2020, we're living in a much different world. And it's weird to think I could feel it coming. For several … Continue reading I could feel this coming.
Equal and opposite reaction
Physics was not my best class. Here I was, senior year of high school, vying for the "Seven-Semester High Honors" title I would share with many of my classmates. Our grades weren't weighted, but I'd be damned if I got either that honor or valedictorian (something I shared with 20 of my classmates) without going … Continue reading Equal and opposite reaction
When ‘no’ means ‘yes’
Busyness is a form of people pleasing, and people pleasing is a coping strategy. If I can't feel good about myself from the inside, then I make sure to get as much external validation as possible. The more I say yes, the harder I work, the more validation I receive which, because of how I … Continue reading When ‘no’ means ‘yes’
Just Say No, AKA the Year 2020
How are your New Year's goals and resolutions going? Did you make any? I haven't made them since probably around 2013 when I resolved to make the bed every day. I have to say, it's stuck and I still make the bed five out of seven days. Instead of resolutions, I try to stick with … Continue reading Just Say No, AKA the Year 2020
Time and space
I'm beginning to think that sleeping in is overrated. Not only is there science to back this up (REM cycles and all that) but I feel so much more at ease in the mornings if I give myself more time to wake up, enjoy coffee, and read a bit. On days like today, I'm promised … Continue reading Time and space
Self-actualization
I've learned a hell of a lot about myself in the past few months. Summer was a lovely time of watching sunrises, reading books (check out my Goodreads on the side bar), namely, getting back into fiction and even fantasy. I've been really connecting with who I am at my core. And also getting shit … Continue reading Self-actualization
MPM 2.0: mercy unmasked 